If your child is in danger right now

Call or text 988 for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, or text HOME to 741741 for the Crisis Text Line. Both are free, confidential and open all day and night.

If you need help now

Call 911 if someone is unresponsive or badly hurt. Call or text 988 for thoughts of suicide or self harm. Both are free and open all day and night. All crisis resources

What to put in the email

Short is better. What you have noticed, roughly when it started, and a question: have you seen anything at school.

You are not asking for a diagnosis or a plan. You are asking someone who sees your child for six hours a day to look.

What happens next

Practice varies by district. Commonly the counselor will talk to your child, sometimes without saying that you got in touch, and will come back to you with what they saw.

Ask what they can offer directly, what needs a referral, and what they are obliged to pass on. That last question is worth asking early rather than discovering later.

If your child does not want the school involved

This is a real objection and worth taking seriously rather than overriding. Being discussed by adults is one of the things adolescents find hardest.

A middle route that often works: tell them you are going to email, tell them roughly what you will say, and let them add or remove something from it.

Three different kinds of help

These are separate on purpose. A parent looking for clinical help should never arrive in a legal intake queue by accident.

Getting help

A family doctor first, the school counselor second, a therapist third. The first two are faster and cheaper, and both can refer you onward.

Finding help

We do not provide treatment and take no payment from anyone who does.

Reporting and resources

Reporting an image or an adult, what a school can actually do, and the organizations worth your time.

Resources

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